Young Women

Young women don’t seem to have respect for themselves. They let these young men use their mind and bodies up. Young women you cannot let men take control over your being. If you are weak he will. Young women you have to stop sleeping with every man you meet just because he told you, you were cute, or the infamous line- You look better than any of your friends. That’s game. He chose you because he figured you were the weaker of the group. You see men watch women to determined how and when he will approach you if at all. If a man doesn’t want anything and he sees a woman who seems to be the same way he will approach you. Young women stop choosing men because of the cars they drive and how good they look. That’s crazy. Young women you need to cover your bodies up because, you only attract men who really don’t want anything but to sleep with you and tell his friends how easy you are. You have to have self-respect. If you got you boobs out and your butt out, men will think it’s ok to rub on you because you got them out their and you must like attention otherwise you wouldn’t be dressed that way. It’s just how they think. you can dress sexy but does your body parts gotta be showing? In some instances you could be asking for trouble. Why is it that young women are so naive of what is going on in life, but when a man says something to them they’re pay close attention? Young women need to get it together because mommy is not gonna be there to protect you all the time. Young women need to be focused more on education, and their goals. Young women you need too stop running the street and acting like you’re going to be kicking it all the time because you’re young. One things for sure time changes, everything don’t stay the same, you better be careful of the choices that you make. Young women y’all need to evaluate these men before you start sleeping with them because everyman that you date might not be for you. You have to hold out. Get to know who you are dating that way you have some kind of idea who he is. Cute just don’t cut it. Never allow a man to do whatever he wants because he will.
If a man likes you or is interested in you he’ll come to you. Don’t seem so desperate to have a man, the right one will come along but, if you think that he is going to come and you’re not inline to receive him you’re wrong. Y’all think men don’t care about, but in fact they do. Sometimes you can meet a guy and say, ahh he’s not my type, but how do you know you never gave him the time of day. Don’t knock until you try it. Now all this cussing and back talk with your or anyone older than you is very disrespectful and it shows exactly what your mother has taught you. Young women you have to stop allowing men to call you out of your name (Bitch, Hoe, Dumbass). Do not allow this kind of behavior, it is a downgrade to you as a woman. Drop-in sleeping with mem who don’t respect you. Stop sleeping with mem who don’t have the goals. Stop selling yourself short-lived on a anything ass man, he ain’t worth it. If you want better you have to be actin better. You wanna be married, you gotta act married. Know This and keep it no one is more responsible for what you do or achieve in your life but you. Just because your moma didn’t do something in a certain manner doesn’t mean that you have to follow what She did, Especially If it didn’t work.


Practice what you Preach

Why is it that people can tell you how to do something, tell you how to be, tell you what they will and won’t do? Is it because their judging you, or it is that they want to compare your life to their own? There are people in the world who will have you doing stuff they would never do. Some people like to see other people go through stuff  just because they don’t like them. Ahh sounds familiar? You have to pay close attention to the wolf in sheep clothing. You have to be aware of people wanting to all of a sudden, now want to be in your life. Some people are good at deceiving people.


Is it possible that if you go to your manager on your job, and tell him/her that you feel as though a male co-worker groped you as you passed by him, that this information would end up in an email to other co workers as a joke? Or how about when you talk to your pastor about a personal situation he in turn give the information out to people who can do harm to you. This kind of stuff isn’t right is it? and why would someone you put confidence in betray you? Is it because it’s the right thing to do? but isn’t a pastor suppose to keep all things told to him or her in confidence? The manager at your job is supposed to be the person you go to about situations or problems you are having on your job and to think that he or she would misuse the information to defame and humiliate you. Now correct me if I’m wrong, but isn’t the pastor of your church, suppose to hold all information given to him or her in the highest of confidence? He or she isn’t suppose to disclose this information no matter what.  What does confidentiality mean to these  people? Nothing…….

Food for thought

You set people up for success or you set them up for failure…..


You have people who think their stuff don’t stink. I’m here to tell you something a little different. You got people out here who live in a better house  and who drives a better car than most people. Don’t get caught up in the hype, what they got may look good but sometimes they can be the most unhappiest and miserable people. And you wanna know why, because they are more consumed with what looks good to other people and what other people think of them. Now how crazy does that sound? I know everybody knows someone like this, what kind of car you driving? Where you live at? they ask you these questions because they want to be reassured that they are doing a lot better than you. But what is it for a man to gain the world and lose his soul. We got some people out here whom in their life never really had anything., and when they get older they want it all and they want to show the world what they got. You have some people out here who forget where they come from, they lose their way. They become materialistic, everything they put on has to be name brand or they ain’t wearing it. What in their minds make them believe that a name brand pair of jeans or purse is any better than another? their minds are warped You have people out here talking about their own people instead of trying to help them. I think when someone has gained knowledge about something they should share it. I’ve heard people be belittled by someone and I immediately say, that’s wrong. I don’t agree with putting people down just to make myself look good. You know that’s why the black community can’t get ahead because we got people like I just described out here not informing their own people about information which in turn can make the community better along with offering opportunity and information for guidance. I know self-preservation is the first key to life. You have to be a giver not just a receiver.  It’s like knowledge is power. I know because whenever someone i know goes through something or they have a problem with something they call me. I’m going to show you GOD’s Power, A Girl I wasn’t getting along with at my job became homeless, but she called on me for help and guidance. I gave her guidance. Now why do you think she came to me of all people, because she knew who could help her regardless to how she felt she had to do what was best you feel me? I’m going to give you another situation, now I’m at home laid off from work from the school break. I receive a text message that a co-worker needs help with her cell phone and she call upon me for assistance. She asked when was I returning to work because she has a knew cell phone and she needs my help. You see sometimes help might just  be around the corner. you never know when and who you may be getting help from so, you need to give in order to receive.  I get called on far more than some people realize and you know what I don’t mind. I’ve been called upon for advice many times! I been called upon for advice from my older lady friends as well as the younger women and women my age because as they say, I keep it real and that I have a way of saying things that don’t seem like I’m putting them down. You know life has always had a way of changing things. You know you got people who go through things and don’t have an outlet so they try to commit suicide or they become withdrawn and depressed. That’s why we should never be ashamed to ask for help. Some people don’t ask for help because they have not been so kind to others, but it’s ok because GOD will make a way where that person will need the very person they have mis-used in some kind of way or fashion. A begger is no less than you, cause someday it just might be you.

Can You really Talk?

When a woman is so depressed and she tells a friend all of her troubles and then the friend tells everyone she knows about her friends situation, does that show that the friend really is not her friend? Sometimes, people get caught up in getting information about someone before they can really get the just of the entire situation. Why would someone want to hurt another person with bad information about them rather it be true or not, can that person really talk? Women got a bad habit of talking about things that they shouldn’t because you never know how far this information could go and what the consequences of you talking too much can get you. -just a little word of advice keep it closed, (your mouth). What if what you say about someone is hurtful and demeaning would you still put it out there? some people would because, they don’t care about other people’s feelings just their own.  Some people go out into the world as if they don’t have a problem of their own. You need to sweep out from under your own door step before you start talking about others. can they really talk? If someone you knew was married and cheating on their husband would you tell him? If you saw your best friend man with another chick would you tell her? If you knew that a rumor was out about your girl, would you tell her? You know somethings are better left unsaid. You gotta know whom it is that you are giving the information to because no two people handle information in the same manner. Be careful because you may hurt someone you are not meaning to hurt and you may just lose a friend. Sometimes, you have people in your life that you think are your friend so, you tell them everything, but you don’t realize they’re telling everything you tell them to someone else. You know why they do this? because they’re unhappy with their life and as the saying goes…Misery loves company. A true friend will try his or her best to help you out of your demise instead of watching you  wallow in it.  I know, I know, some people can’t be helped, but nothing beats a failure but a try. Have you ever ran across a person who got all the answers to everything? Wow, that’s something ain’t it? they got all the answers for you and your situation but not any for their own. Can they really talk? Truth is, you need to know what information to give someone and what information not to give because your business will be in the streets quick. Ahh the family is not excluded in any of the given information.  Have you ever known someone who has it all together? now that’s funny because I know there are people out here like that. These are the people who always got something to say about what you’re doing and how you should do this or do that. These kinds of people are Miserable because they don’t have a life because their too busy trying to run yours. Check this out, Girl what are you doing, I wouldn’t that, I would do this. It’s like is their information more beneficial or harmful? Can they really talk? Here’s another one, Girl you let him do that? I wouldn’t let him do that to me, I would get rid of him. Meanwhile, at her house she’s getting spit on, talked to crazy, and the big one getting disrespected as a woman constantly. Can she really talk?  Basically, what I am saying is take heed to what you’re saying and to whom you are saying it.

Food for Thought